Dad's 74th Birthday

Tomorrow is my Dad's 74th Birthday. 

Although I don't really have much of a relationship with him anymore, for reasons I don't care to explain, I can't help but think of him today.  It has been years since we were close, but I am so thankful that God put him in my life.  Having done so has strengthened my core and has taught me how to forgive, because I have been forced to do so countless times.

I'm not writing this today to reflect on the unhealthy relationship we do have, but to help me remember how lucky I am and to whole-heartedly wish him a 'Happy Birthday'.

Because of this man, I have a younger sister that I have an awesome relationship with.  Kelly and her family are my world.

Because of this man, I have 2 older half-brothers and 3 older half-sisters.  My relationship is different with all of them, but we're as close as you can be while having a 20+ year age difference.  I didn't grow up around all of them, but if it wasn't for him, they wouldn't be in my life.

I am a strong-willed, hard-headed woman and those traits couldn't have come from anyone else!  Even though I grew up in an abusive home, I don't focus on that.  My childhood doesn't define me, if anything it has taught me the importance of treating people well and keeping your word.

I have come to terms with the fact that even though I am a "fixer", sometimes you just can't "fix" toxic situations.  Sometimes the only thing you can do is walk away and love from afar. 

Even though we may not talk or have a relationship, I still love you Dad.  Your health and well-being are always in my prayers.